You...A perspective.

The first time I met you,

I found you difficult.

No, you weren’t mean

But not compassionate either

And I….went with the flow

Not heeding, not caring, not wanting.

Till I realized I do.

Yes, it was you!

And so the story began

My ‘once in a lifetime’ story

You and Me

Surreal Illusory trancelike

Perfect time

Butterflies.

Perfect moments

More butterflies…

Laughter

Insanity

Magic

Life!

You became

The first and last thought of my everyday being.

And I…was changed

Not planning, not thinking, not foreseeing

Yes, it was you!

The first time I grasped reality

It hurt like hell

A sharp pain right within

You’d scared me…

Scared me with your indifference,

Something I was unaccustomed to.

They say, some why-s in our life always remain unanswered

And Yet I…..waited

Not believing, not speaking, not smiling

Waited to be responded.

You didn’t change.

Facts didn’t change.

Maybe I was blind

So as not to see that…

You were the story of my life, whereas I

… was just a part of yours!

As the silence of the night creeps in

I think of you, yet again

You…who were never supposed to mean this much to me.

You, who made everything better, just by existing in my life

And I….Fell so hard

Not with knowledge, not with consent, not with consequence.

Yes, it was you!

My secret smile…but now, the obvious tear.

P.S. It’ll never be the same without you around.

I miss the best part of my everyday life!

Are you ready to take a chance?

‘Take a chance’-yes, we are familiar with this phrase and the connotation attached to it. Has been used over-used, time and again in books, novels, articles, movies- the very recent being ‘Zindagi Na Milegi Dobara’, where it has been emphasized in sequences more than one, that life is all ‘bout making a decision which may seem bizarre at the outset, or may not be close to being conventional, but taking a chance is what we can do, if at all we’re looking forward to experience the finest, and make the most  out of the one life, we’re blessed with.

When I look at my life in hindsight, I see many choices that some may regard as unwise decisions. However, I hardly regret any of those and I say this not because they  taught me lessons or made me more sensible and judicious as a person but  for the reason that without making those choices, without taking those chances, my life would be consumed by too many 'What if-s'.And I personally, can never imagine a life abound with 'What If-s and If Only-s'. The only regrets I have are the times I didn’t take a chance, the times my courage faltered and I turned my back on those feelings and never took that leap of faith. Maybe I was scared.

Yes, taking a chance is scary. It involves going beyond what you are acquainted with. It’s uncertain and risky. Phrases like- ‘Better the devil you know’ has been coined to justify that. But aren’t risks unavoidable? Just being alive holds inherent risks. To get out of bed in the morning is to take a risk...Who knows, it might jeopardize our lives! There are number of things that might befall, once we venture out of our cocoon. But will staying in bed eliminate those risks? Not really. In fact it will present a whole new set of perils in the form of apathy, monotony, boredom and a lack of zeal in life- each of which makes the existence seem a burden and weighs us down at some point in our lives.

So, be it choices in career, relationships, lifestyle or simply day to day activities...push the boundaries, go ahead and take that chance…avoiding which, you are choosing to stay trapped in the vicinity of your current circumstances.

But hey, 'Taking a chance’ need not necessarily be a sign of impulsive decision or acting at the spur of the moment. There are times when a person should dig a little deeper, delve into the situation and then act. Gut feelings may not always be right.

If you think, failure is the hardest part...think again!

The seemingly big question “What if I fail?”  is always going to be a nagging voice in the head from time to time. The best way to silence the voice, is to realize from the very beginning, that though undesirable, there is actually no real harm in failing, if you think about it. Even if the decision or the chance you take, doesn’t work out as smooth as you thought it would, you can at least give yourself a pat on the back, for having the nerve to attempt something different in the first place!

Then, what is?


Well,the hardest part lies in finding a balance, knowing when to take the chance and when to take a step back. Knowing when to keep pushing forward in persistence or when to just let go. It’s a balance of  the head and the heart, of thoughts and feelings, of doing what’s 'right' versus doing what you 'want/need' to do. It’s either 'bout not taking a chance and living with the regret that you’ll never know what might have been. Or taking one, risking it all, truly living life, and then accepting the bliss or the difficult path, where that chance may lead.
 

All that being said, if one feels entirely and utterly contented with every aspect of their lives and look for no further escalation and growth either of the mind, body or soul-this mantra isn't for them.But very few of us create the life of our dreams without taking chances!

Therefore,

• Break the mold,
• Get out of your comfort zone
• Taste the fresh air that life has to offer, instead of the reek you are used to smelling and now find comforting.   

Make the Choice to take the Chance to be able to Change your life!

P.S- Decisions are the hardest move to make. Especially when it’s a choice between where you are and where you want to be. But...

I’d rather mess up than miss out.  

You?

What women want from men?

In the past few years, I’ve come across umpteen men, who seem to somewhat misconstrue the notion of what women actually want from them. The stereotyped tall, dark, handsome blokes...who also happen to be mega rich and possibly even famous are good for Mills and Boons and we should leave them there.

In the real world of attraction, romance, dating, love and relationships - what the fairer sex seeks, has nothing to do with that. The simple basic need of every woman is a man who makes her feel good. She desires to experience a more meaningful, emotionally-fulfilling relationship with one, than she would with most others. Now before you jump to conclusions, ‘Feeling good’ is not about being showered with sweet mushy compliments- some genuine, some not-so-genuine (which is even worse). Most men these days make a common mistake of trying to be the perfect Mr. Nice Guy- polite and friendly when interacting with women, thus restricting her into a narrow range of ‘nice’ and ‘sugary’ emotions.- none of which will ever turn her on ,sexually . Women can see through this act of ‘Super Nice Guy’ a mile away and it turns them off instantly, because at the end of the day - it is deceptive, manipulative and calculating.

To make a woman feel the way she wants to around a man, one must allow her to be familiar with a wide range of desirable emotions when she’s around you- optimism, humor, amazement ,passion, delight, rightful amounts of annoyance and  displeasure when needed. And as appalling as it may sound, even tears! A man who isn't afraid to display his hurtful emotions (in the right proportions)  is powerfully attractive to us. Just be real, be raw!

In addition, women also want someone who can make her feel feminine. This is especially relevant to today’s contemporary career-oriented women, who are forced to conduct themselves,being at par with men, in their day jobs and in many other parts of their lives. Masculinity is mostly displayed through body language, gestures, behavior and conversation.

A ‘gentleman’ (don’t go by the literal word meaning) who knows the difference between surprising us and shocking us, between lust and longing, between boldness and over-confidence, between chivalry and going too far with it, is what we women are seeking for. 

To sum it up, here’s a list of things men can do, that we think are terrific:

• Be a listener
• Make eye contact
• Dress neat
• Smell good
• Tell us the truth, not what we want to hear (sooner or later we’re gonna find out).
• Be daring but not cheeky!
• Please spare us the horror of pre-packaged pick-up lines.
• Don’t go by rules of the dating game, create your own and execute them with panache and suavity.
• Lastly, be yourself.I repeat, just be yourself! If that doesn’t make an impact on one, try the next.. Try harder..Keep trying..Try however but don’t try and be a ‘fake’ you! 

P.S-Cliché it may sound, but it’s always the little things that count. One just needs to play it large.

So, game on?

'...simply Shreya' re-defined!

July 31st,'2011..Must be some epic day, coz I,and yes I'm stressing on it, finally motivated myself to join the blogging bandwagon!And that is wow!

Have always believed myself to be good at preaching and disseminating 'gyaan' which i myself don't tend to follow..okay..don’t mostly follow! Have played the role of agony aunt, guide, teacher..Have captured moments in my diary 'bout life..love..moments..drama..heartbreaks..But starting  a blog??Nah!that was nowhere on my list..not even on my wish-list.. Why  to crack one’s brain and  think of new topics to write on? Who on earth  has the time and energy for this?and most importantly,what’s the fucking  need? Well, dunno how, but seem to have found the answers..it’s Me and as I see there’s a need.It ‘ll help me find myself.It'll enrich me as a person.It 'll add value to my life and make it meaningful..great if it does to someone else' as well! But as of now, I'm happy to have made up my mind shedding all pangs of lethargy and inertia,to maintain a blog.

The next logical step is to give it a name..and lo!Took me half-an-hour to finalize one....so yeah, have decided to call it 'Simply Shreya'..which is in fact an irony, coz the content would be anything but simple! But then..as my profile says..I'm a bunch of contradictions!Better start dealing with it! ;)

So here’s,

                                            

 which  doesn’t necessarily, aim at anything in particular ..would be as whimsical as me.. glad if it makes sense ..sometimes at least.

Dark, raw, unpretentious and more often than not,cryptic,.Strictly for those who can look beyond the realm of conventions and dare to accept the off-beat.

P.S: Prudes, please find yourselves elsewhere..in other words,get lost!!