Why gorgeous women date ‘not’ so handsome men?

Yes, of course..we've all spotted that 'average' or even a 'below-average' bloke with a hot, gorgeous woman. Haven't we? And then we can't help but ask ourselves, "Huhn? What's she doing with him?"
Also most of us, especially the men folk, automatically assume that the only reason a sexy woman like her would want to be with someone like him, is because he’s rich, or 'well hung' (size matters if you let it matter) has a fancy sports car or possesses some other attribute, that he’s using to attract the type of hot woman he’s with.

Wrong!

Wrong!

Wrong!

Okay, so let's take a deep breath and talk about this.
Let's decode what exactly is wrong with the conventionally attractive men, and what is so right about these..well, conventionally un-attractive men.

So, what's the secret?

Trust me when I say this, good looking women have the hardest time meeting men real men!(No, no, before raising that eye-brow, hear me out.)
All that " Haww! You're so pretty, you can get anybody you want to" doesn't hold true in most cases. 

Look around you. You'll be amazed at how many women end up settling for sub-par rela­tion­ships. You'll be baffled at how many great looking women are on dating websites (and how they still remain unsuccessful).

I myself am perplexed, on how so many single hot people out there, are not dating when they want to/who they want to. Sure, there are a billion factors that play into it, but the fact remains, that thousands of pretty girls are staying home tonight, wondering what’s wrong with them…only because all the blokes they meet, are too afraid to ask them out!

Why the f*ck?

Well, sad but true...most men are intimidated by looks! 

They think because she’s pretty - 

A. She must be high maintenance

B. Hard to get 

C. Already dating 

D. Snobby. 
E. Worst case scenario- All of the above

And the few hot studs that do approach her, either rely so heavily on their good looks alone, that they forget to make the date exciting, or are 'players', who like to play mind games just to get into her p*nts , or claim her as a trophy!!

Now...

Enter the Average Joe.

The other category, 'aka' the Average Joe, know this and play it to their advantage pretty smooth. They know, that in most cases, these women are single, fed up of head games and craving for a real man to approach them and desire them for who they are and not solely for their bodies. 
Now because she's so clearly "better than he deserves", the average joe will go to extremes to keep her happy, since he likely can't replace her with anyone of similar desirability. 

         So, how does it ultimately work out to be?

Well well well, there's a commonly-held belief that women are infinitely less shallow than the male counterparts. They might fantasize about a tall, dark stranger whisking them off for a night of passion, but when it comes to looking for a partner, they value wit, kindness and success just as much as good looks or at times over good looks. 

Most women want a man with a good head on their shoulders, someone who’s a good listener (that’s very important) and who is a true friend. He’s got to be funny, understanding, mature and respectful.The great sex doesn't hurt either (okay, so that’s uber important) but in a nutshell, what she wants is an honest, trustworthy, fun man who can bring stability into her life and romance her; not only for her body but also for her mind and soul.
Good lovers are hard to find. So if he can make sensual love to her body and mind at the same time, she'll have him signed for life!


Or will she?
Ahem!

Picture this:

“A gorgeous man spots a gorgeous girl. He immediately thinks, “She’s so hot, she’s got to be taken.” He overlooks her.

The pretty girl never gets approached.

She notices she’s being ignored by a hottie and thinks there’s something wrong with her. She’s clueless and distraught, but she tries to go on her merry way.

A few minutes later, a really beastly, ugly-critter looking guy spots the gorgeous girl and he thinks to himself, “This girl is HOT! I’m going to take my chances, another rejection isn’t going to hurt, besides, I feel today is my lucky day!” 

Ugly guy approaches gorgeous girl.

Gorgeous girl is confused as she thinks to herself, “No one really takes the time to get to know me, what the hell, he may be the one, I’ll give it a shot!”  - (An excerpt from menconfess.com)

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Get the drift? 

Man up guys!

P.S: Assumptions are the mother of all screw-ups! Never assume anything with women. Talk the talk and walk the walk. Observe a woman, studying her like an experiment. But never assume. 

Happy Hunting! ;) 
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What women want from men?

In the past few years, I’ve come across umpteen men, who seem to somewhat misconstrue the notion of what women actually want from them. The stereotyped tall, dark, handsome blokes...who also happen to be mega rich and possibly even famous are good for Mills and Boons and we should leave them there.

In the real world of attraction, romance, dating, love and relationships - what the fairer sex seeks, has nothing to do with that. The simple basic need of every woman is a man who makes her feel good. She desires to experience a more meaningful, emotionally-fulfilling relationship with one, than she would with most others. Now before you jump to conclusions, ‘Feeling good’ is not about being showered with sweet mushy compliments- some genuine, some not-so-genuine (which is even worse). Most men these days make a common mistake of trying to be the perfect Mr. Nice Guy- polite and friendly when interacting with women, thus restricting her into a narrow range of ‘nice’ and ‘sugary’ emotions.- none of which will ever turn her on ,sexually . Women can see through this act of ‘Super Nice Guy’ a mile away and it turns them off instantly, because at the end of the day - it is deceptive, manipulative and calculating.

To make a woman feel the way she wants to around a man, one must allow her to be familiar with a wide range of desirable emotions when she’s around you- optimism, humor, amazement ,passion, delight, rightful amounts of annoyance and  displeasure when needed. And as appalling as it may sound, even tears! A man who isn't afraid to display his hurtful emotions (in the right proportions)  is powerfully attractive to us. Just be real, be raw!

In addition, women also want someone who can make her feel feminine. This is especially relevant to today’s contemporary career-oriented women, who are forced to conduct themselves,being at par with men, in their day jobs and in many other parts of their lives. Masculinity is mostly displayed through body language, gestures, behavior and conversation.

A ‘gentleman’ (don’t go by the literal word meaning) who knows the difference between surprising us and shocking us, between lust and longing, between boldness and over-confidence, between chivalry and going too far with it, is what we women are seeking for. 

To sum it up, here’s a list of things men can do, that we think are terrific:

• Be a listener
• Make eye contact
• Dress neat
• Smell good
• Tell us the truth, not what we want to hear (sooner or later we’re gonna find out).
• Be daring but not cheeky!
• Please spare us the horror of pre-packaged pick-up lines.
• Don’t go by rules of the dating game, create your own and execute them with panache and suavity.
• Lastly, be yourself.I repeat, just be yourself! If that doesn’t make an impact on one, try the next.. Try harder..Keep trying..Try however but don’t try and be a ‘fake’ you! 

P.S-Cliché it may sound, but it’s always the little things that count. One just needs to play it large.

So, game on?